What Kind of Beauty Attracts a Godly Man?
Understanding beauty through the lens of godly values
There are many kinds of men in this world, and what each one calls beautiful reflects the kind of man he is. A demon’s idea of beauty will look nothing like what an angel calls beautiful. That’s because beauty is not a standalone value—it springs from the values within a person. The same applies to godly and ungodly people alike.
Even advertisers understand this. They say, “Beauty brands – skincare, color cosmetics and hair care – can be vastly different in the consumer values they speak to and, as such, in the consumers they attract.” Beauty follows values. And when values are shaped by godliness, beauty takes on a whole new meaning.
Who Does a Godly Man Call Beautiful?
So what kind of beauty catches the eye of a godly man?
Let’s look at the wisdom of Apostle Peter. He was a godly man, an apostle of Jesus Christ, and a married man who understood both spiritual truth and practical life. As his time on earth neared its end, he left this timeless advice to women who desire true beauty:
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
(1 Peter 3:3–4 NIV)
Peter highlights the inner beauty of a woman who trusts in God. This gentle and quiet spirit was the adornment of holy women in the past, and it remains the kind of beauty God treasures—and that godly men appreciate.
Godly men know this truth:
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”
(Proverbs 31:30 NIV)
If your focus is only on outward beauty, hoping to attract a godly man, you may be disappointed. That approach usually draws shallow attention. True attraction comes from within—a spirit that fears the Lord and radiates grace.
How Do You Know What’s in a Person?
You can’t measure a person by looks alone. The fear of God—or lack of it—is revealed in how someone handles life’s temptations, especially sin. Scripture says:
“By the fear of the LORD men depart from evil.”
(Proverbs 16:6 KJV)
People who justify or hide sin lack reverence for God. But those who confess and turn away from sin show true godliness.
When Samuel was sent to anoint Israel’s next king, he was impressed by Eliab’s outward appearance. But God corrected him:
“Do not consider his appearance or his height… The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”
(1 Samuel 16:7 NIV)
The lesson? God sees deeper—and so do godly men.
Do Godly Men Care About Outward Beauty?
Absolutely! But they put first things first.
External beauty matters, but it must reflect something deeper. When God instructed Moses to clothe Aaron the priest, He said:
“Make sacred garments for your brother Aaron, to give him dignity and honor.”
(Exodus 28:2 NIV)
Aaron’s garments were to represent the holiness within. They were beautiful—not for vanity, but for the glory they expressed. Likewise, godly men appreciate beauty that reflects inner purity and strength.
A godly man admires modesty, propriety, and dignity. He’s not interested in seduction or immodesty. He appreciates a woman’s style when it complements her character, not when it competes with it. The beauty he values is whole and refined—it honors God.
What Does a Godly Woman’s Beauty Look Like?
A beautiful woman in the eyes of a godly man dresses with grace. She doesn’t use clothes to hide insecurity or attract ungodly attention. Her appearance expresses dignity and a holy confidence in her identity as a woman created by God.
She isn’t trying to impress the world—she’s reflecting the glory of the God she serves. Her style is not about extremes, but balance. She’s not trying to become a sex object—she’s living as a vessel of honor.
This is beauty that’s defined by holiness.
The Kind of Beauty to Avoid
Not all men define beauty the same way. Scripture describes some men whose desires are twisted by lust and greed:
“They have eyes full of adultery and never stop sinning… they are experts in greed… cursed children!”
(2 Peter 2:14 NIV)
These men are captivated by seductive beauty—what Scripture might call “Jezebel beauty.” It’s shallow, sensual, and self-serving. In today's world, many don’t even use the word beautiful anymore—they say sexy. The entire language of beauty has shifted.
Godly women don’t live by the world’s standard. They live by heaven’s.
Final Thoughts: Becoming Beautiful in God’s Eyes
Godly men see beauty as God sees it. If your desire is to be found by a godly man, start with cultivating godly beauty. Let your reverence for God shine through your character, your choices, and yes—your appearance.
Let your inner life radiate outward. That’s the kind of beauty that attracts godly men—men of character, conviction, and calling. Men whose hearts are led by the Holy Spirit.
And when you walk in this beauty, you’re preparing not just for a wedding day—but for a life marked by righteousness, peace, and joy.
Do you desire to become this kind of woman? Or are you a man seeking a woman with this kind of beauty? Let’s talk about how to grow in godly character and godly relationships in the comments below.
Thanks for sharing. We need to emphasise on this topic nowadays because we now live in a sexualised world.
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