The songwriter once said, “Where there is love, the shadows are all friendly, and evil finds no place to hide a fear.” That’s exactly what the Bible means when it says love believes the best about others, love covers a multitude of sins, and perfect love casts out all fear. This is the kind of love God had in mind for husbands and wives. It’s also the same love that purchased our redemption, gave us a home in heaven, made us part of God’s family, and even gave us His name—all while we were still sinners. As Scripture says, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8, NKJV).
This is the love
Christ shares with His Church forever. And through marriage, we’re given a
glimpse—a foretaste—of that eternal love. It’s not something we can manufacture
on our own. Human love, while capable of kindness, is ultimately self-centered.
It often gives in hopes of receiving something in return. But divine love is
different. It doesn’t look to the person being loved for a reward—it looks to
God, the One who commands us to love, and it receives its strength from Him.
This kind of love
is possible only because Christ’s love has been poured into our hearts. Sadly,
many Christian couples still operate out of selfish, human love. It’s no
surprise, then, that their love feels lifeless—or barely alive. Divine love
thrives only when Christ is truly Lord of our lives. God’s solution to every
problem is the same: make Christ Lord. And that includes your love life. Love
your spouse the way Christ loved us—even when we were broken, unworthy, and
hard to love.
We can’t fully
experience Christ’s love while clinging to values and behaviors that oppose
Him. It’s like trying to run a gasoline car on diesel—it simply won’t work. But
when the Lordship of Christ fuels your love for one another, something
beautiful happens: love comes alive. The hurting find comfort, and broken
hearts are held close until the tears dry. In that kind of love, the shadows
feel safe, fear has nowhere to hide, despair melts in the warmth of care, and
hope rises like an eagle.
As we remember this season that Christ, our Passover Lamb, was sacrificed for us, may your new life in Him be a daily celebration of love and mercy, in Jesus’ name.
By Pastor Ifiok Ukobo
